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Blue, the colour of the sky and the sea. A sign of depth and stability. A sign of being calm, yet powerful. Omnipresent – like the sky and the sea. Blue was coincidentally also the colour of the top worn by Sonalee the day i interviewed her and it matched her personality so much.
Sonalee is the co founder of TCCGGD – a full service communications agency based out of New Delhi, that handles several star brands of the country. You see the confidence in her – the confidence to run a show like this in an arena where there are several big stars.
A Beyonce in the world of Kanyes, Anderson .Paaks and Jay Zs. She is also a survivor of Cancer, or how we see it – a survivor of a major obstacle.
Step 1 – “Take it easy and be kind to yourself”
You are the ultimate – respect yourself and your emotions, especially when you find yourself facing an obstacle. “Doctor’s can help only a little, rest is up to you.” is something she shared. Although she had a great set of doctors and support groups, she believes that having confidence in yourself goes a long way. Aakanksha Kapoor, an ex employee of Sonalee shared that even during her chemotherapy, she would come to work – nothing stopped her. “That was quite inspiring – the will to beat the disease and live well. Even with us – she was strong and supportive yet pushed us to be independent. That’s why I’ve learnt so much.”
Believing in yourself, having that confidence – it helps a lot in times of struggle.
Step 2 – “99.9 % of the people are amazing”
Sonalee personally had great support from her family, friends and her doctors while she was getting her treatment done. She believes that most (“99.9%”) people are amazing. Trust in people around you – talk to them, express yourself, vent it out. A lot of our stress and troubles grow because we keep them within us. If it helps, join support groups! These can even be in the form of book clubs, group dance classes, sports .. the options to be with like minded, positive people are a plenty!
Step 3 – Sensitize
This is for the people who are around someone facing an obstacle. “Keep your conversation neutral, talk about things you would with others, be around, but don’t push yourself or force yourself to be there! Be normal, like you would be with anyone else.” There is a fine line between being oblivious, to not thinking about your problems constantly. A friend is supposed to make you see the real situation, just from a comfortable angle. Be that friend.
Step 4 – Walk towards a healthy lifestyle
Sometimes facing an obstacle leaves you with a lot of good, than bad. Being a cancer patient, Sonalee had to or wanted to make several changes in her life. She began eating and living healthy – following the lifestyle of Ayurveda, consuming and using organic goods and exercising every day. “No one will take care of you like you do. Balance – don’t stress on diets, accept what works for you and what doesn’t. Gradual changes work well for beginners. Like they say, small steps go a long way.”
Step 5 - “Do stuff for yourself!”
A thing that really made me smile while i spoke to Sonalee was when she told me that she takes her holidays very seriously. Work hard but play harder! “Do stuff for yourself! I work hard but i never miss out on going on holidays. I love going near the water, walking cities, visiting my nephews in South Africa/ Dubai!…”. Being happy is key- a happier you can tackle an obstacle in a much better way than otherwise.